How do you do it?
How do you actually tell your husband/wife that you don't want to be with them anymore?
Do you sit there while watching Eastenders and say "oh, by the way I've been thinking that I really don't wanna be married to you anymore?"
In my previous long term relationship it wasn't really hard. We didn't really talk, had nothing in common (other than the kids), didn't really have a laugh. I do with my husband; we actually get on quite well to be honest - but the more I see recently the more I just don't want to be here. With him.
The kids are really unhappy - he's always bitching about something to them; we had discussed moving and because he doesn't really want to move away (even though he won't be seen with me in our local area in case the ex-wife is about) he has now said he wants to take everything - now I'm talking shed, laminate flooring, carpets - the lot!! I think the final straw was yesterday he was cooking dinner (he's not bad at that to be honest) and he dropped the baking tin full of oil for the potatoes over the kitchen carpet. Now, yes, it was an accident - but!! he did it a couple of weeks ago and I got the blame (!). I wasn't even in the room I might add. It was me that cleared it up while he bleated on about having to replace three carpet tiles at just under two quid each. So you might think that the next time he took the tin out he'd be a bit more careful. Obviously not. This time he has totally ruined the whole floor. Did he clear it up? Did he f**k as like 
. He stood there and lit a cigarette and just looked at it. The oil dripping over the whole cooker - top to bottom (the cooker I had only cleaned yesterday morning I might add), flooding over the carpet.
He had a week off a couple of weeks ago - I got totally rat-arsed one night and told him everything that was on my mind. He sat there looking at me like I'd sprouted another head. Didn't argue back and hasn't mentioned anything since. We went out for lunch while he was off and I sat with him outside the pub and explained again (just sober this time lol) what I was getting so upset about and again he hasnt' mentioned it since - I did ask for his input, opinion etc. He just seems to keep burying his head.
So after a week on constantly being uptight and trying to talk to him I've decided that, much as I love him, I can't live like this anymore. I want to meet up with friends, I want my friends to feel that they can phone without him getting the arse, my children to feel like they don't have to live in their bedrooms. No more treading on eggshells on a Sunday afternoon in case he's had one too many at the pub. No more having to worry about whether there is enough money to pay the rent after he's taken his beer money for the month 'because he's earned it'.
I'm just not quite sure how to actually bring the subject up. Its not really part of the daily "how has your day been dear" is it??
