Yep. Its a blog!!

In response to: "Silence Is Golden" 131 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

oh dear, Families can be hard work. Maybe you could write a card to your dad, telling him what is going on in your life at present, being positive, putting him straight in a subtle way about your husband not being involved before. You need to write it so that it does not cause a huge row between him and your Mum, so she can read it and not twist it more…

In response to: "Home Alone...." 132 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

wow, well you have also got a lot going on. Well done for getting your husband out, especially if he is violent. I like what you say about the kids being calmer, that makes it worthwhile in itself. Good luck, and I hope he stops harassing you soon. Are you not afraid that he might get drunk one night and come round to the house? more…

In response to: "Home Alone...." 132 days old
by trintrin1x [Member]

Good for you hun! :D xx more…

In response to: "Feelings....." 300 days old
by lyndlj [Member]

You need to sort your home situation first hun, sometimes we feel things that are not as real as we think because other things are wrong.

Once your home life is sorted then you can think about starting something serious with someone else, one step at a time.

xx more…

In response to: "Terrible blogger!!!" 319 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

Thank you for the add! :) more…

In response to: "Terrible blogger!!!" 320 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

was wondering what had happened to you. Well done on getting a new place though. more…

In response to: "Absolutely bizarre!!!!!" 340 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

Wow talk about in denial. He's so wrapped up in himself he cant see how unhappy you are or at least stop to consider your feelings for once. Bit harsh about the kids christmas presents, what did they do wrong? I agree with sidejump, you need to speak to citizens advice bureau, they are top for advice about legal issues and where you stand. I have a more…

In response to: "Absolutely bizarre!!!!!" 385 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

sounds like he is clutching at straws. Trying to act like you can't have meant all that, it was the booze talking. Be really nice to you etc etc, and it will all go away. I can't believe what he said about repaying kids Christmas presents though, or even about not signing over the house to you. What a bastard.
Next time you talk to him, make more…

In response to: "Something I Wouldn't Normally Do......." 385 days old
by devilish-angel [Member]

hi sidejump! thanks for your comment. i won't get re-housed if i leave him because the house was 'mine' in name first for a few years before we got together. very complicated :-(. hope all is going ok for you and R!! more…

In response to: "Something I Wouldn't Normally Do......." 393 days old
by whoknows [Member]

I think it is just one of those things, that women often need to realise that they can still love (and be loved) before they leave a marriage. And the only way to do that is to meet someone else. Good luck - I know the difficulties and the heartache this is going to bring, and I'll be thinking of you. more…

In response to: "Something I Wouldn't Normally Do......." 394 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

it won't be easy. Let us know how it goes. I discussed this with R today, and he said, that I can't expect hubby to leave, I have to leave him. That is maybe what you need to do, which with kids in tow is easier said than done. more…

In response to: "D.I.V.O.R.C.E." 394 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

sounds like my husband used to be. He is thawing, and getting slightly better at talking, but the bury the head option is the preferable one for him too.
Maybe DIVORCE is too big a word, maybe trial seperation is a better start. But I have not found a way of telling my husband it is really over yet either. more…

In response to: "D.I.V.O.R.C.E." 398 days old
by phoenix2k [Member]

It sounds as if you are talking to a brick wall anyway. Have you mentioned the word divorce at all? You will probably find that there will be a final straw (and it will probably be something minor) that will break the camels back. Personally, him dropping the potatoes with oil all over the floor and not even cleaning it would anger me. I would be t more…

In response to: "The Strangest Feeling." 419 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

just make the best choices you can with what you have to go on. If you do nothing you will probably have regrets anyway, so it is maybe better to make some definate decisions. more…

In response to: "Naughty!" 431 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

ok, well that is where i met my lover, and the 3 before him. Be aware though, some are not worth your time. Be ready with an exit strategy, and very good luck. It will make you feel like a sexy woman again, and if it does not, then he is not the right contact. more…

In response to: "Naughty!" 432 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

Oh maybe those are the sites I should be on when my rugrats go off to school!! :) more…

In response to: "Small Steps." 437 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

i guess that is the danger. They would have to be carefully worded I suppose. But then again, a discussion can become heated very quickly, and people hear what they want to hear, and twist what we say. more…

In response to: "Small Steps." 439 days old
by devilish-angel [Member]

how would he react? badly i think!!

i have been thinking about suggesting counselling - i have a problem writing letters in that they always seem to get used against me somewhere down the line! more…

In response to: "Life is so confusing!!" 445 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

a hint. If you reply to comment from the blog, not from the posts listings, and select reply to comment like I just did. Then I get an email that you have left a reply- otherwise I don^t know.
Hope that makes sense. What is the degree in? more…

In response to: "Small Steps." 445 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

heh, well done with the small steps. Was that my idea ;)
He does seem to have problems though- have you thought about writing down all you have written here, but in a letter to him, and then giving it to him to read? Give him some time to read it, and then see if he will discuss it.
I guess you need some concrete ideas of what you want more…

In response to: "Could be time for a change......" 449 days old
by Prettyintelligentprincess ^Pro

He needs to stop being so possessive...really he does. more…

In response to: "My husband....." 449 days old
by Prettyintelligentprincess ^Pro

Blimey, I thought my blog was complicated!....Yes some counselling would be beneficial I think... more…

In response to: "My husband....." 451 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

really it sounds like this could be a good relationship, but he has some issues. Have you thought about counselling for both of you? more…

In response to: "Could be time for a change......" 451 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

wow, this is a bit of a turnaround. It does sound like he is being totally unreasonable. The phoning when you are out could just be that he is jealous, and worried you might get off with someone else. You said in one post he adores you, yet trying to keep you like a caged bird is not a good way to show this.
I agree though that getting your l more…

In response to: "Could be time for a change......" 452 days old
by trintrin1x [Member]

Maybe thats what he needs to give him a short sharp shock, thats what i did to my man (it only lasted 1 day n night though, but it worked) and now he is completely diferent and things are brilliant now (well most of the time, long story!) Hope it gets better for u. Trina :) x more…

In response to: "Where do i start on one of these things then?" 460 days old
by Collar [Member]

Interesting first post.
Blogging as a kind of counselling caught my eye (I don't think it is, by the way).
I think it's just a new channel to converse with people (usually absolute strangers), and sometimes their ideas might ring true for you. more…

In response to: "Life is so confusing!!" 460 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

i think you need a night out with your friends/husband to unwind and relax. Go and have a meal and a glass of wine, or catch a late movie. Whatever you decide to do, have fun and just enjoy yourself! more…

In response to: "Life is so confusing!!" 460 days old
by devilish-angel [Member]

hi, thanks for your comment! the real sad thing is that i finish a degree next year :-( I don't think my husband is prepared to 'let' me go to work when i've finished though. its a real complicated one. i'm using the blog to try and sort out how to get it all out thus figuring out what on earth is going with my head!! i can but hope!! more…

In response to: "Life is so confusing!!" 460 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

having read the whole blog now, which admittedly did not take long, I can see why you are bored. Being a stay at home mum has its boring times, and if you never really got any qualifications, i can see why you might feel trapped. I think you should definately do a course or other, even if it is to learn a foreign language at first, like some Spanis more…

In response to: "Where do i start on one of these things then?" 460 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]

well, take a hint from someone who knows, it is probably better to try and liven up your marriage rather than embark on an affair. I did not go looking for an affair, it came looking for me, but if you still love your husband, maybe he would like some excitement too. more…